this is a hard post to write really.
i am not one for getting involved in 'stuff', especially 'stuff' involving people
its getting to the point where i am thinking of reaching for a bach remedy to try to get my head free.
imagine a new person being introduced to a close, established group who have been living in harmony for a long time.
they worm their way in... in the process destroying close bonds, creating disharmony, creating lies as truths...
they 'collect' people...
they 'collect' paths to follow...
they target vulnerable people...
but what to do?
i cannot see any form of direct confrontation being a possibility but its so hard to sit back and watch...its like waiting for a train wreak.
its hard to sit back and have friends upset, have their balances tipped, to sit back and watch vulnerable people targeted for whatever purpose...
you all have great, combined wisdom-what would you do?
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In this 'forever' group . . . does no one else see this happening?
You seem to be such a lovely and caring group from what you post online, I would think such negative engery would be noticed by at least some of the others . . . has anyone else made mention?
I find the 'target vulnerable people' quite disturbing :(. I'm guessing that there is no hope of this person just going away? In all honesty, I would simply try to shut the person out if they are intent on causing distubance and harm, but realise this would be difficult if not everyone sees what is happening. Sorry, this really hasn't been of much help!
Hope you are ok {H}
First of all, thanks for your lovely get well wishes.
In the past I've experienced folks like this who are pretty toxic. Could you possibly talk to the other people in the group discreetly and share your thoughts?
Take care
Twiggy x
Once upon a time, when I was a lot younger. There was a girl in a group of friends like this. I was a new comer as well. One of the guys was the Ex of her best mate and he was still in love with her. She started to spread rumours about him stalking his Ex and everyone started to turn against him. My boyfriend and I knew it was not true and exposed her. Everyone became friends again, but she was forgiven and still part of the group. And now she had it in for me. It did not end nicely!
Whatever you do, you have to stand in your truth, but your friends will do exactly whatever it is they are going to do. Even if everybody is made to see what is going on, they may not then do the logical thing. I don't regret fighting the battle I fought but there were consequences. I suspect you to would be happier knowing you tried...
Oh dear this sort of thing is always so unpleasant, but unfortunatly people like that are everywhere and you have to be on your guard at all times,, i think you will have to be strong and talk it over with the others in the group, never easy either but clearly a change needs to be made, and quickly..
Take care luvvy i shall be thinking of you.
Pixie xx
I wish I knew what to do. I wish I had great wisdom for you. I should have great wisdom by now... I've met enough of these people. but this one is extremely clever and has fooled so many... so many lovely people who are not expecting a 'snake in the grass' among us. those people would not believe us if we expressed our feelings to them, to warn them. so perhaps we just wait and be there to pick up the pieces.... and hope that this disruptive force becomes bored and moves on. hard, I know, but doing something other than that could split the group.
I am always here if you need to talk.
with love and blessings, Willow xXx
thank you all :)
Kadeeae, as you see here the lovely Willow is one of of those who is aware...very aware!
thank you Willow *hugs* for being there while the 'wreak' happens, before boredom sets in and they, hopefully, move on and being there ready to pick up the pieces xoxox
THis happens everywhere - mostly people you wouldn't think it of... THis made me stay so shy and careful what I tell about myself.
Worst thing is if you introduce a friend of yours to another one and you realize they get close to each other (which is great) but start talking about you...
Sorry I can't really help you but sending out a hug :-)
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